Grief, loss, or bereavement
Grief can arrive in waves – numbness one day, tears or anger the next. You might feel guilt or “what ifs,” struggle with sleep or appetite, find it hard to focus, or be blindsided by reminders and anniversaries. Some days you may feel like you’re coping; the next, it can feel as if the loss has just happened.
Loss isn’t only death. It can include miscarriage, the end of a relationship or friendship, losing health or independence, changes in identity, or a future you were counting on. Grief often affects relationships too: feeling isolated, out of step with how others are grieving, or misunderstood when people expect you to be “over it” before you’re ready.
I’m a qualified and accredited therapist with over 15 years’ clinical experience in NHS Talking Therapies services and private practice, specialising in high-intensity CBT and Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT) for depression, grief, loss and life changes.
With a warm, non-judgemental approach, I’ll work at your pace to make space for what you’re feeling and reduce the moments that feel unmanageable.
Why you might be here
You might recognise yourself in some of these:
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Someone close to you has died and you aren't sure how you can go on without them.
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You’re struggling with intense feelings — there may be a mixture of anger, sadness, guilt, shame, hopelessness and even relief- and it’s hard to make sense of them.
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You may be experiencing a "hidden" loss-a miscarriage, a relationship ending, infertility, a loss of a life you had imagined
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You may be stuck in endless loops of regret and "if only I had..." thoughts.
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You may be struggling to sleep, eat, concentrate and motivate yourself-every day tasks seem like a lot of effort
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You may be avoiding reminders of the loss as it is too painful
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You feel disconnected and alone-like no one understands what you are going through. You may find it hard to talk about your grief, as you don't want to come across as a burden.
It’s important to say that everyone experiences grief differently, and strong, shifting emotions in the first year after a loss are completely normal. A therapy such as Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT) can be especially helpful if it feels as though your mourning has become “stuck”, life has ground to a halt, or the intensity of your emotions hasn’t eased at all many months later.
How I help with grief and loss
I can help you make sense of your loss—how the loss is affecting your feelings, and how it may be affecting your relationships and roles in your life.
Together, we might:
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Make sense of your grief
We can explore how this loss is affecting you without trying to squeeze you into a “stage” model. Mixed feelings are welcome: love and anger, relief and sadness, pride and regret.
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Look at your relationship with who or what was lost
We’ll think about what this person, role or future meant to you, and how that shows up now. This can include finding ways to keep an ongoing, healthy bond (rituals, memories, values) rather than forcing yourself to “let go”.
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Understand how grief is affecting relationships
We’ll map out who feels close, who feels distant, and where misunderstandings or tensions are appearing. This might include different grieving styles in a couple or family, or feeling alone even when people mean well.
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Support conversations with others
If you’d like to, we can practise how to talk about your grief with partners, friends, family or work—how much to share, what you need, and where your limits are.
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Support with day-to-day routines
We’ll work on small, practical strategies for sleep, eating, movement and rest so that your body is better supported to cope with what you are going through.
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Find ways to cope with strong surges of emotion
Together we can identify your triggers (dates, places, songs, social media, certain thoughts) and build grounding strategies—things you can do in the moment to ride the wave more safely.
What sessions can look like
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Free 30-minute consultation
A gentle space to share a little about your loss, ask questions, and see if working together feels safe enough.
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Early sessions
We’ll talk about what happened, how life has changed since, and what feels hardest right now. We’ll also notice what’s helping, even in small ways, so we can build on that.
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Ongoing work might include:
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Making room for your feelings without rushing or forcing them.
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Exploring memories in a way that feels manageable for you.
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Planning how to approach anniversaries, significant dates and difficult situations.
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Looking at how roles and responsibilities have shifted and what support you might need.
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Gently reconnecting with activities and people that bring small moments of steadiness, comfort or meaning.
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Reviewing together
We’ll check in periodically on what feels different, what still feels very raw, and what you’d like from the next part of our work.
Next steps
If any of this resonates with you, you’re welcome to get in touch. You can book in for a free, no obligation, 30 minute call where we can talk about your needs to see if therapy might help.
You don’t have to have the right words or a neat story—grief is rarely neat. We can take it at your pace and work out together what might help you through this.
